Trust Happens
One fresh thought,
One act of surrender,
One change of heart,
One leap of faith can change your life forever
Quote from Robert Holden – Author of the book, ‘Shift Happens’
Dear Friends of Ancient Healing,
So now we’ve discussed shifting, surrender, and now comes trust. What is trust? In essence, trust is the ability to have faith in someone’s words and deeds. This is a can be a difficult feat for many of us. Trusting our selves, our intuitions and our feelings is so very important. We really need to pay attention to the signals that we see happen in our lives and then afterwards we can follow these signs in order to follow our path in life. In addition by trusting in God or your higher power and meditate on these things, it will help you get into a space of trust and in this process you will become your own teacher and advisor. You need to be aware of what is going on around you and surrender and trust in your instincts and gut feelings that you are doing what is best for you, no matter what obstacles or setbacks you may encounter.
Remember we draw to us what we need it’s really that simple. If you don't like what you're drawing to yourself, then only you can change this by making different decisions. No one is going to change our world for us; therefore we have to make internal changes within ourselves. If we work on our attitudes, our analyzing, judging other people etc. then the outer manifestation of our internal work changes our lives and the lives of the people around us. Let go and let God as they say in AA, be free to be, just be. Don’t live in the past or project to the future, live in the now and trust that all will be well in your world. Let the synchronicity of your life flow naturally. Take it easy and open yourself up literally to all possibilities and just take a wait and see approach and be flexible, expect nothing.
As Buddha said we are what we think and with our thoughts we make the world, not just our private personal world but also the world we live in. You are your own teacher and advisor, let go of the need to control, arrange, and fix, you can’t control, change, and fix anybody but yourself. Really and truly, believe me as I speak from experience and it took me a really long time to understand that reality. Trust in yourself. The only person you can change is yourself.
In order to develop trust we need to develop certain attitudes and beliefs such as the hope in the goodness of people and society. We also need to trust in the fairness of life, remember the Bible says, “what you sow, so shall you reap,” which is really just another way of describing karma. So if people are fair and honest they will eventually receive similar behavior directed back to them.
We need to have faith in honor, which is an attitude that helps people be open to others and risk being vulnerable. You know what they say, what goes around comes around, so a person that treats you negatively will eventually get the same returned to them in someway later in this life or in the next. We need to have a belief in a power greater than ourselves, the acceptance of a spiritual power with greater strength, wisdom, and knowledge than you; one with a divine plan to include your experience, whatever you will encounter in life. Rather than believing that you are 100% in control of your destiny, belief in this spiritual power enables you to let go of over responsibility, guilt, and anger. This lets you accept God's will in your life and enables you to let go of your distrust and isolation from others. If God is in control of the universe, you can lighten your load and let God do some of the leading in your life. `"Let go and let God,'' can be your motto.
We need a healing environment, which creates a bond of trust with others in your life where blaming, and ill will do not exist. In healing we use forgiveness and understanding to resolve problems and issues. We are then willing to forgive and forget and let go of the past grief and hurt and be open to trust.
It is also necessary to diminish your need for competition and jealousy with others, which will then lessen the barriers between you and others. This is essential in order to develop a mutual trust. In taking a risk to be open to others enables you to become a real person to others. It is an essential behavior in building trust between people. Learn to take a risk and be vulnerable as this is another essential step in building trust between people. By doing this people will accept you for who you really are rather than for who they want you to be.
As hard as it may be letting go of fear is a big step toward developing trust. Fear will restrict your actions with others. Whereas letting go of fear will free you of your constraints that can immobilize you. There are so many aspects of fear; fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of caring, fear of success, fear of being hurt, fear of the unknown, and last but not least the fear of intimacy. All of these fears are blocks in the development of trust in any relationship. If you accept yourself as who or what you are so will others. Let your guard down enough to develop a trusting relationship with others. Being insecure in yourself will justify to others that if you are unable to accept yourself first, how can you achieve the self-revelation necessary to develop trust? Therefore self-acceptance is a key to the development of trust.
Without trust, peace of mind is not possible, be willing to trust in yourself and others. Be willing to trust yourself today. Make a list. For example do you trust yourself? If not, how would your life be different if you trusted yourself? What are your criteria for trusting others? Make a list of people in your life that you trust…that you don’t trust. What is it about the people or their behavior that you don’t trust?
Remember that the most important person for you to trust is yourself. You cannot possibly be true to yourself without the element of self-trust. For today practice trusting you.